Online dating advice for man
For example, the guy who "wants a relationship" but by all other factors in his profile is clearly looking for a hookup. Actually, even if you're on the site just to date, trust me, gentlemen, you'll have better results if you make these few minor adjustments: 1.
Stop taking half-naked photos of yourself in the bathroom mirror.
Now, if you're laid out in a hot tub in a beautiful bathroom with a view of the ocean behind it, that's a different story.
Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact.
We can feel or not feel the chemistry, and usually go right into a conversation about what's happening where we are. With just "Hi," I have to assume you're disinterested, bored, or simply inarticulate. Just because sites have those options doesn't mean you have to use them. Tell me you liked what you saw and read, and make a connection.
No matter what your excuse is for not writing more, it's lame and a turn off. Taking pix of yourself on the way to being drunk off your ass is not inspiring. You might be God's gift to the party girl, but how are you with a real woman, outside the bar? Do you really want to see all the men I've been with before? And we're not teenagers who need to hide behind texting until we "feel comfortable" enough to talk. As a coach, I encourage women to "know their brand" of femininity.
I can't tell you how many women just don't respond to guys who just write one word. We're not in college anymore and this isn't a frat. Stop putting up pix of you with the gaggle of girls you were hanging out with during your drunken escapades. I'm on the site to date and/or presumably to find a mate. If you don't like to cook, the pictures on your profile shouldn't show you in an apron, holding up an apple pie.
And if you want a relationship, you shouldn't put your pole-dancing pictures up.